Relationships on the Road: Dating a Truck Driver

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We’ve all heard it before: life on the open road can get lonely for truckers. If you haven’t already found love by the time you become a truck driver, it may be hard to ever find it. Last year, we talked about some of the perks of online dating for truckers and a lot of our readers’ comments demonstrated just how hard it is to find a good relationships when you’re on the road.

But why?

heart made of red cord on computer keyboard

With professions specific dating sites, online dating gives truck drivers a way to look for love while on the road.

Why is it that, in the trucking industry, the same people that are able to keep the entire country going are not able to keep their relationships going, or have trouble finding a partner at all?

Let’s explore some of the reasons that truck drivers have a hard time finding the “one”, and for the ones that have found their match, we’ll look at some of the ways they keep the romance alive.

Struggles of trucking relationships

There are many reasons why truck drivers have trouble finding their perfect match, and it’s not their fault. Relationships are hard for anyone, but especially a trucker. If you are thinking about dating a trucker, there are some factors you want to consider.

Long distances make for long distance

A truck driver on the road talking on his cell phone

Truck drivers spend a lot of time on the road, making your relationship long distance most of the time.

Long-haul truckers are on the road for days or even weeks at a time. Even if they are coming home weekly or monthly, with all the time away, it can feel like you are in a long distance relationship.

There may be times that you will not be able to talk to your trucker because their sleep schedule may be different than yours, or maybe they are in an area of the country with no cell phone reception.

Irregular schedules

Another thing that makes being in a relationship with a trucker is that you cannot necessarily schedule events with them. Most truckers are on irregular schedules; coming and going at different times of the day, week, and month.

family standing by their truck

Being a trucker and having a family is tough. You may have to miss out on some of your little one’s most special moments.

For truckers with families, it can be even more difficult. Even if they want to be there, truckers may miss some important happenings like graduations, or recitals. If you want to have a family with a trucker, you will have to be creative with how you will both share the special moments they may miss.

Magnified Trust Issues

Trust is an issue for many couples that get to see each other every day. Sometimes, people who date long-haul drivers fear that their trucker will also date other people in various towns on their routes.

And we’ve all heard the stories about truck stop prostitution. I mean there’s a documentary about it, and we even wrote about “lot lizards” last July. Also known as ‘pavement princesses’ or ‘male buffalos’ in the case of male prostitutes, they have been known to lurk at truck stops, going from truck to truck searching for lonely drivers looking for a good time.

lot lizard hanging on the side of a truck

In a relationship with a trucker, you have to trust that even when they are tired and lonely on the road, they will not give into the temptation of lot lizards.

And what about the people at home while their trucker is on the road? They could also be having a relationship on the side. Truckers and their significant others need to fully trust each other if they want to make their relationship work.

Reality of the trucking lifestyle

Truckers lead a stressful and generally unhealthy lifestyle. They are responsible for safely transporting thousands of pounds of goods, which is demanding enough. But truckers also have constantly changing sleep schedules that depend on their pick up and delivery times.

Trucker’s aren’t always able to shower daily on the road. That feeling of clean is something that non-truckers may take for granted. Truckers also have trouble finding healthy eating and exercise options. A whopping 70 percent of truckers are obese, and drivers are twice as likely to be diagnosed with diabetes.

frustrated truck driver sitting in car

Truck driving is one of the unhealthiest professions affecting sleep, weight, mood, and overall health.

Again, the trucker is not to blame for this. It is the reality of the industry, and all of these factors can take a toll on a trucker physically, mentally, and emotionally, making it hard for them to nurture relationships.

Staying together when you’re both alone

It may be hard to make a relationship with a trucker work, but it is definitely possible. Here are some tips to help you and your trucker find your happily ever after:

  • Spend time alone together. Your time together will already be limited, by setting aside time without the kids or in-laws, will help you both feel more connected to each other.
  • Stay connected. Communication is a major key to making any relationship work. With all the mobile technology, you can make the best of your relationship by calling, texting, video calling, playing apps together, and more.

    man and woman communicating through video chat on tablet pc

    Communication get very creative in trucking relationships. Video chats, apps, text and games help keep the romance alive.

  • Learn about the trucking industry. If you are not a trucker, you will want to take some time to learn some of the industry ins and outs. If possible, take a trip with your trucker to learn what they really go through on a daily basis and grow closer.
  • Learn to manage stress. Truckers have it tough. The nature of the industry makes it a stressful job. If you’re keeping the home together while they are on the road, you will also experience stress as well. Learning how to healthily manage and communicate when you are frustrated will go a long way for your relationship.

Join our Discussion

Do you have a tip or a pain point to share about relationships with truckers? We want to hear from you! Tell us about some of the struggles you’ve had when looking for or keeping the love.

couple standing in front of their truck

Though it may be hard, finding love as a trucker is worth it. What is your experience with relationships?

Maybe you’re a trucker who has a successful relationship for years and want to tell your fellow truckers how you keep the romance. Maybe you know someone that has given into the temptation of a lot lizard or male buffalo. Or perhaps you’re just a trucker that is looking for love and wants to find other truckers to talk to.

Whatever your reason, if you have something to say, we want to hear it! Leave a comment below or join the discussion on Facebook, and keep chasing your happily ever after!

Author: Hit The Road Jack

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  1. I’ve been driving for a bout 2 years and for 2+ years I’ve been single. I have had a hard time starting relationships in the past but now it is impossible. I’m 24 and have tried multiple dating sites with no real conversations to be had since I used them. the girls that do show interest in me are usually scammers trying to make a quick buck and it drives me insane and I have lost all faith in Internet dating. I have thought about finding a different job multiple times that would have me home more. but I’m scared about getting paid less and going back to living paycheck to paycheck. Truck driving is a good paying job but doing long haul is maddening if you have no one to comfort you when you get home.

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    • I feel your pain brother. I’m in the same situation.

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  2. I was very fortunate in that I was already married, and with no kids. I took my wife with me and her and I live in the truck and we both love the lifestyle. We have a microwave oven and plenty of storage space for food. It makes a big difference when the love of your life likes to ride along with you.

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  3. I’m with my trucker 24/7. He drives and I do the business side. Being together all the time has its ups and downs as well. If we have a disagreement, we just have to work it out right then and there. The other thing is trust. We trust each other. When we have down time, its also personal space time. We can talk to other people and not worry about each other having an affair. We have been together for 10 years. I have been on the truck year round for 5 years. We make it work together. We do feel for other truckers that have to leave there loved ones at home and be out here by themselves. Be safe everyone.

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  4. Been married to a truck driver for 25 years .And yes it has been a challenge for sure..The kids are grown and I got my CDL and drove for awhile .But now I just go with him and sometimes I go home from time to time.#Lovemytrucker

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