We’ve all heard it before: life on the open road can get lonely for truckers. If you haven’t already found love by the time you become a truck driver, it may be hard to ever find it. Last year, we talked about some of the perks of online dating for truckers and a lot of our readers’ comments demonstrated just how hard it is to find a good relationships when you’re on the road.
Why is it that, in the trucking industry, the same people that are able to keep the entire country going are not able to keep their relationships going, or have trouble finding a partner at all?
Let’s explore some of the reasons that truck drivers have a hard time finding the “one”, and for the ones that have found their match, we’ll look at some of the ways they keep the romance alive.
Struggles of trucking relationships
There are many reasons why truck drivers have trouble finding their perfect match, and it’s not their fault. Relationships are hard for anyone, but especially a trucker. If you are thinking about dating a trucker, there are some factors you want to consider.
Long distances make for long distance
Long-haul truckers are on the road for days or even weeks at a time. Even if they are coming home weekly or monthly, with all the time away, it can feel like you are in a long distance relationship.
There may be times that you will not be able to talk to your trucker because their sleep schedule may be different than yours, or maybe they are in an area of the country with no cell phone reception.
Another thing that makes being in a relationship with a trucker is that you cannot necessarily schedule events with them. Most truckers are on irregular schedules; coming and going at different times of the day, week, and month.
For truckers with families, it can be even more difficult. Even if they want to be there, truckers may miss some important happenings like graduations, or recitals. If you want to have a family with a trucker, you will have to be creative with how you will both share the special moments they may miss.
Magnified Trust Issues
Trust is an issue for many couples that get to see each other every day. Sometimes, people who date long-haul drivers fear that their trucker will also date other people in various towns on their routes.
And we’ve all heard the stories about truck stop prostitution. I mean there’s a documentary about it, and we even wrote about “lot lizards” last July. Also known as ‘pavement princesses’ or ‘male buffalos’ in the case of male prostitutes, they have been known to lurk at truck stops, going from truck to truck searching for lonely drivers looking for a good time.
And what about the people at home while their trucker is on the road? They could also be having a relationship on the side. Truckers and their significant others need to fully trust each other if they want to make their relationship work.
Reality of the trucking lifestyle
Truckers lead a stressful and generally unhealthy lifestyle. They are responsible for safely transporting thousands of pounds of goods, which is demanding enough. But truckers also have constantly changing sleep schedules that depend on their pick up and delivery times.
Trucker’s aren’t always able to shower daily on the road. That feeling of clean is something that non-truckers may take for granted. Truckers also have trouble finding healthy eating and exercise options. A whopping 70 percent of truckers are obese, and drivers are twice as likely to be diagnosed with diabetes.
Again, the trucker is not to blame for this. It is the reality of the industry, and all of these factors can take a toll on a trucker physically, mentally, and emotionally, making it hard for them to nurture relationships.
Staying together when you’re both alone
It may be hard to make a relationship with a trucker work, but it is definitely possible. Here are some tips to help you and your trucker find your happily ever after:
- Spend time alone together. Your time together will already be limited, by setting aside time without the kids or in-laws, will help you both feel more connected to each other.
- Stay connected. Communication is a major key to making any relationship work. With all the mobile technology, you can make the best of your relationship by calling, texting, video calling, playing apps together, and more.
- Learn about the trucking industry. If you are not a trucker, you will want to take some time to learn some of the industry ins and outs. If possible, take a trip with your trucker to learn what they really go through on a daily basis and grow closer.
- Learn to manage stress. Truckers have it tough. The nature of the industry makes it a stressful job. If you’re keeping the home together while they are on the road, you will also experience stress as well. Learning how to healthily manage and communicate when you are frustrated will go a long way for your relationship.
Join our Discussion
Do you have a tip or a pain point to share about relationships with truckers? We want to hear from you! Tell us about some of the struggles you’ve had when looking for or keeping the love.
Maybe you’re a trucker who has a successful relationship for years and want to tell your fellow truckers how you keep the romance. Maybe you know someone that has given into the temptation of a lot lizard or male buffalo. Or perhaps you’re just a trucker that is looking for love and wants to find other truckers to talk to.
Whatever your reason, if you have something to say, we want to hear it! Leave a comment below or join the discussion on Facebook, and keep chasing your happily ever after!