Relationships on the Road: Dating a Truck Driver

Relationships on the Road: Dating a Truck Driver
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We’ve all heard it before: life on the open road can get lonely for truckers. If you haven’t already found love by the time you become a truck driver, it may be hard to ever find it. Last year, we talked about some of the perks of online dating for truckers and a lot of our readers’ comments demonstrated just how hard it is to find a good relationships when you’re on the road.

But why?

heart made of red cord on computer keyboard

With professions specific dating sites, online dating gives truck drivers a way to look for love while on the road.

Why is it that, in the trucking industry, the same people that are able to keep the entire country going are not able to keep their relationships going, or have trouble finding a partner at all?

Let’s explore some of the reasons that truck drivers have a hard time finding the “one”, and for the ones that have found their match, we’ll look at some of the ways they keep the romance alive.

Struggles of trucking relationships

There are many reasons why truck drivers have trouble finding their perfect match, and it’s not their fault. Relationships are hard for anyone, but especially a trucker. If you are thinking about dating a trucker, there are some factors you want to consider.

Long distances make for long distance

A truck driver on the road talking on his cell phone

Truck drivers spend a lot of time on the road, making your relationship long distance most of the time.

Long-haul truckers are on the road for days or even weeks at a time. Even if they are coming home weekly or monthly, with all the time away, it can feel like you are in a long distance relationship.

There may be times that you will not be able to talk to your trucker because their sleep schedule may be different than yours, or maybe they are in an area of the country with no cell phone reception.

Irregular schedules

Another thing that makes being in a relationship with a trucker is that you cannot necessarily schedule events with them. Most truckers are on irregular schedules; coming and going at different times of the day, week, and month.

family standing by their truck

Being a trucker and having a family is tough. You may have to miss out on some of your little one’s most special moments.

For truckers with families, it can be even more difficult. Even if they want to be there, truckers may miss some important happenings like graduations, or recitals. If you want to have a family with a trucker, you will have to be creative with how you will both share the special moments they may miss.

Magnified Trust Issues

Trust is an issue for many couples that get to see each other every day. Sometimes, people who date long-haul drivers fear that their trucker will also date other people in various towns on their routes.

And we’ve all heard the stories about truck stop prostitution. I mean there’s a documentary about it, and we even wrote about “lot lizards” last July. Also known as ‘pavement princesses’ or ‘male buffalos’ in the case of male prostitutes, they have been known to lurk at truck stops, going from truck to truck searching for lonely drivers looking for a good time.

lot lizard hanging on the side of a truck

In a relationship with a trucker, you have to trust that even when they are tired and lonely on the road, they will not give into the temptation of lot lizards.

And what about the people at home while their trucker is on the road? They could also be having a relationship on the side. Truckers and their significant others need to fully trust each other if they want to make their relationship work.

Reality of the trucking lifestyle

Truckers lead a stressful and generally unhealthy lifestyle. They are responsible for safely transporting thousands of pounds of goods, which is demanding enough. But truckers also have constantly changing sleep schedules that depend on their pick up and delivery times.

Trucker’s aren’t always able to shower daily on the road. That feeling of clean is something that non-truckers may take for granted. Truckers also have trouble finding healthy eating and exercise options. A whopping 70 percent of truckers are obese, and drivers are twice as likely to be diagnosed with diabetes.

frustrated truck driver sitting in car

Truck driving is one of the unhealthiest professions affecting sleep, weight, mood, and overall health.

Again, the trucker is not to blame for this. It is the reality of the industry, and all of these factors can take a toll on a trucker physically, mentally, and emotionally, making it hard for them to nurture relationships.

Staying together when you’re both alone

It may be hard to make a relationship with a trucker work, but it is definitely possible. Here are some tips to help you and your trucker find your happily ever after:

  • Spend time alone together. Your time together will already be limited, by setting aside time without the kids or in-laws, will help you both feel more connected to each other.
  • Stay connected. Communication is a major key to making any relationship work. With all the mobile technology, you can make the best of your relationship by calling, texting, video calling, playing apps together, and more.

    man and woman communicating through video chat on tablet pc

    Communication get very creative in trucking relationships. Video chats, apps, text and games help keep the romance alive.

  • Learn about the trucking industry. If you are not a trucker, you will want to take some time to learn some of the industry ins and outs. If possible, take a trip with your trucker to learn what they really go through on a daily basis and grow closer.
  • Learn to manage stress. Truckers have it tough. The nature of the industry makes it a stressful job. If you’re keeping the home together while they are on the road, you will also experience stress as well. Learning how to healthily manage and communicate when you are frustrated will go a long way for your relationship.

Join our Discussion

Do you have a tip or a pain point to share about relationships with truckers? We want to hear from you! Tell us about some of the struggles you’ve had when looking for or keeping the love.

couple standing in front of their truck

Though it may be hard, finding love as a trucker is worth it. What is your experience with relationships?

Maybe you’re a trucker who has a successful relationship for years and want to tell your fellow truckers how you keep the romance. Maybe you know someone that has given into the temptation of a lot lizard or male buffalo. Or perhaps you’re just a trucker that is looking for love and wants to find other truckers to talk to.

Whatever your reason, if you have something to say, we want to hear it! Leave a comment below or join the discussion on Facebook, and keep chasing your happily ever after!

Author: Hit The Road Jack

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  1. I’ve been driving for a bout 2 years and for 2+ years I’ve been single. I have had a hard time starting relationships in the past but now it is impossible. I’m 24 and have tried multiple dating sites with no real conversations to be had since I used them. the girls that do show interest in me are usually scammers trying to make a quick buck and it drives me insane and I have lost all faith in Internet dating. I have thought about finding a different job multiple times that would have me home more. but I’m scared about getting paid less and going back to living paycheck to paycheck. Truck driving is a good paying job but doing long haul is maddening if you have no one to comfort you when you get home.

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    • I feel your pain brother. I’m in the same situation.

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    • Hello Dave there is always someone out there just takes time. You can always talk to me I don’t bite. I am a lot older than you. But there loss at the end off the day

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  2. I was very fortunate in that I was already married, and with no kids. I took my wife with me and her and I live in the truck and we both love the lifestyle. We have a microwave oven and plenty of storage space for food. It makes a big difference when the love of your life likes to ride along with you.

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  3. I’m with my trucker 24/7. He drives and I do the business side. Being together all the time has its ups and downs as well. If we have a disagreement, we just have to work it out right then and there. The other thing is trust. We trust each other. When we have down time, its also personal space time. We can talk to other people and not worry about each other having an affair. We have been together for 10 years. I have been on the truck year round for 5 years. We make it work together. We do feel for other truckers that have to leave there loved ones at home and be out here by themselves. Be safe everyone.

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  4. Been married to a truck driver for 25 years .And yes it has been a challenge for sure..The kids are grown and I got my CDL and drove for awhile .But now I just go with him and sometimes I go home from time to time.#Lovemytrucker

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    • Sally I have had a relationship with a truck driver but I would love to meet someone new. For love. Phone number is 07784502033

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  5. Hey I’ve been with my trucker for 9 months and we have been happy with the communication and the times we spend when he’s home. We were friends for 20 years before our relationship so I knew what I was getting into. Up until now litterally today, I haven’t had any issues, but I’m feeling very insecure today but because he’s recently divorced and his heart was broken he isn’t a very emotionally attached person so I can’t open up to him about my insecurities!! We are always in contact via WhatsApp, FaceTime or calls, but, this is massive lol we haven’t spoken for 24 hours!! I don’t know if it’s because we spent the last week together that we both don’t have much to say so we have just been sending texts. Is this normal??? I don’t know what normal is anymore. I do know that I love and trust him very much and I would never cheat or hurt him in anyway, also I know he wouldn’t do that to me too.

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  6. I have been dating a truck driver for roughly over 4 years, and he’s recently started working for a new company maybe s little over 2 months ago. He lives at home with his mom because he doesn’t want to leave her in the house alone. He’s about to be 27yrs old. Him and his mom are from Louisiana and have been living here in Texas for the past 15-20 years when his mom decides she wants to move back to Louisiana about a month ago. So since he’s just starting his new job he had to go they a process to make sure he could be transferred somewhere closer to where they’ll be living. So since then, I haven’t really been able to talk on the phone with him. He claims that he never has signal, so I should text him instead of call because he’ll for sure get the text when signals back up. He did tell me that it would be hard maintaining our relationship, but he said that he was willing. I haven’t seen him since almost a week ago, I haven’t gotten the chance to really talk to him since I seen him. I’m growing irritated that I can’t at least here from him. He’s constantly either training someone or riding with a manager being another reason he can’t talk. He told me he hasn’t even talked with his mom in a week. I really don’t know what to do, I love him to death, but this long distance is really beginning to eat me up. What should I do? I need advice from both truck driver and lady that has a successful relationship with a truck driver..

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    • Ariel your story sound similar to mine I just met a truck driver but he from Louisiana and works in Texas And started a new Job I hope the guy I met is not the guy your dating just curious

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    • He may just really be busy and have a lot going on. Continue being patient until he shows you otherwise. I always say, if it isn’t infidelity, then you can just about, get through anything 🙂

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  7. Dating a truck driver is the hardest task to do next to raising a kid! Trust and time are two things that you have to absolutely have to keep in mind at all times when dating a truck driver. I’ve been with my hard working truck driver for going on 3 years (September 1st), all 4 companies he was with (PAM, Taylor, Fresh Point foods, and EPES) and it hasn’t been as easy as a walk in the park but one things for certain, daily motivation and communication is definitely a must when dating a trucker, they’re gonna need every bit of your support and motivation they can get! I fell in love with a Trucker (not my ideal future) and I hadn’t looked anyone’s else way since 2014 so LOVE is definitely possible in the truck driving life!!!!

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    • I needed to see this Megan <3

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  8. It definitely is close to impossible to find and keep good friends as well as establish a relationship with a woman that either understands or is willing to understand the trucking lifestyle. Consider yourselves lucky/blessed if you are already in a decent relationship with someone that loves you, supports you, and is patient enough to understand what you go through over the road. For some of us that have been single for a very long time, and definitely not by choice dating is flat out impossible. At least where I currently reside no woman is interested in dating someone that drives a truck for a living. One can only be willing to go through life all alone every single day/week/month/year before giving up and vanishing off of the face of the earth forever, and I’m pretty much on my way there in the near future. If you have someone that you care about stay close to them and try to make the relationship work.

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    • Hi my name is Doris, I met my husband he had drove for 16 years, I would go with him and then I got my cdl we drove team for 16 years. 2014 the Dr told him he had 3 days to leave he passed away September of 2014. He asked me to give up my cdl and I did. I know he is in heaven I have not met anyone he was younger than me. We had our fun time and bad but I thank God for him, I’m 66 ready for my new chapter. God bless all our truckers.

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  12. I was marrived with a truck driver for 21 years and now I am divorcing him. I took care of the kids and the house and everything was on my shoulders. He was the worst human being I ever met. He is a gambler, a bisexual that sleeps with anybody including prostitutes, he is addicted to porn, he is a fake helping everyone but not his family, etc. we had days when we had no food on the table bc of his bad habbbits. I will never date a truck driver again. I promised myself that and to my kids. I was there being a good wife, cooking, cleaning, educate the kids and he is a deadbit dead that doesn’t care about his kids but he care about his mistresses kids.

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